You remain speechless in front of the telly to go separately according to their hobbies and realize at some point: Actually, we have to say anything more.
Most couples enter, according to survey as a ground for divorce: "We have drifted apart." Psychologist Elke Eyckmanns therefore advises the regular relationship check.
Why do lovers drift apart so quickly these days? One important reason is that in the infatuation phase, no reconciliation between the living and thinking is done. Everything will be all in some way - with love. This one and the partner in terms of flexibility overestimated. Very important are values and attitudes. And the child. If they do not fit, is constructed in such a relationship from the start to sand. Other relationship killers:
One gets ahead and forget to take the other.
One of them evolved in a direction with which the partner can not do anything more.
Children come and confuse the Paargefüge.
Both partners have a job and after work, so flat that they are only able to sit together alone in front of the telly.
Also a very important point: the sexual attractiveness of the partner is lost. Adds the partner does not turn on without effort, this appears to be no reason for self-dealing with them or even change the way they want.
What should one do so that it did not even get to that point? The first is to turn his head at the beginning of a relationship and look closely. Does the partner of my ideas about life? If he has similar values and goals? Then: telly off and at least one meal together, which means nothing more than a day to spend at least half an hour talking to each other.
And to make very important point: From time to time synchronization, so to speak, update: Are we still happy with our relationship? Do we still have the same goals? What should be changed or corrected? What will follow in the near future? And: Are we satisfied with our sexuality?
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